WHERE DO YOU EVEN START?
Most men struggle to reach out for help. Most men don’t know where to begin or who they can even ask for help. Sound familiar? It’s not your fault.
As men we are not taught about our emotions or encouraged to ask for help. Instead, we are taught to take it on the chin, brush it off and find a way to fix it. The problem with this approach is that it leads to total emotional isolation; worse, it does nothing to address the stress and pressure we often feel as we try to manage on our own.
Most men struggle with developing a sense of what it means to be a man. We all know the stereotypes of being a man. Money, success, women are often the focal points of men and men’s interactions with each other, but most men who have pursued money, women and status have also found themselves feeling unfulfilled and empty.
SO WHAT’S MISSING?
Men’s work is a general term for therapy that focuses on supporting men in learning how to develop supportive relationships with themselves and other men. If the idea of doing that scares you then you’re in the right place. The truth is the idea of developing supportive relationships scares most men.
It’s also something most men tell me they have always wanted but have no idea how to create.
In order to develop relationships with other men (and women for that matter) you must first have a strong relationship with yourself. In a world where we’re taught to focus on being politically correct, avoiding conflict and making other people happy there is surprisingly little room for taking care of yourself. I know that might sound dramatic, but if you’ve ever felt unacknowledged, over-looked or dismissed then you’ve experienced what I’m talking about.
Therapy with a focus on men’s work is designed to help you discover for yourself what it means to be a man. This process focuses on helping you clarify your needs and values while learning how to prioritize these needs and values in your life and your relationships. As you might imagine, men’s work can only truly be accomplished in the presence of other men. If you’re looking for direction on how to grow and develop as a man I’d be honored to be your guide.